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What I have been up to Q1 2018

People are noticing!
Noticing that I have not posted on this site in a couple months.

Yes I am still around! Kicking butt and taking names.
I have been working hard to make my 2018 Vision be, and continue to be, a reality.

How’s it going so far? Nailing It!

Lets go through the four vision statements…

Vision: Become a topnotch, well respected communicator and coach

To date I have completed/am currently doing:

Speaking Engagements 2
Masterminds 3
Coaching Coaching: 27 sessions with 6 clients for 41+ hours!

Just today in fact I spoke for Simply Beautiful Tiny Homes LLC during a Real Estate Investors Association of Washington training day on Team Building and Communication.

There is a lot more coming down the line too! For example, I currently have 528 mastermind sessions planned with clients. Some of those sessions are part of a year long daily growth session.

Vision: Let my money make me money, not me making money

This is my second most actively worked vision, after the next vision which involves my relationship with my wife.

To date I am actively working with startups (new businesses) in the following categories:

In planning phase 2
Pre-launch 1
Self-sustaining 2

Vision: Build an ever improving relationship with my wife that others coming behind can model after

This is the most exciting vision for results!

Alix and I have been growing together exponentially. The last two years have been very busy for us personally and combined. As you can see from above I have a lot going on, so does Alix. She is currently working as a NICU nurse, finishing a Masters in Nursing Education, and running her own clothing business.

At the beginning of the year we read the book How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It. In the book, the authors share the differences between men and women and how we relate to our environment and each other. It walks the reader through the physiological and phycological differences between men and women and provides clear examples on how a situation affects each sex with proven scientific research. This book has opened our eyes to truly be able to see from the other persons perspective and quickly reestablish connection. I 100% believe every dating and married couple should read this book.  If you have not read it already please please please make it top on your list to get a copy and read it. I would love to hear how it changes your life. Drop me a message on the contact form and lets chat!

Vision: Live a slow paced life

Though it may not sound like it from the above I am actually accomplishing this vision too! Sure I have a lot on my plate but it is on my schedule. I have been using Pareto’s 80/20 Rule to analyze and aggressively cut out activities that fall into the 80% category. This has resulted in a much calmer, more peaceful state of being. It has allowed me to expend more time and dedicated energy in communing with Alix and close friends, as well as dialing in the areas of my life that move me towards my goals. As a bonus, I have been able to read again. I set a goal of 80 books this year and as of this writing have finished 18!

Life is good!
I expect it only to continue getting better!

2018 Vision

Q1 Update

I am not a fan of the “new year commitment”. While it may be well intended, the new years commitment is just one more item on your todo list. One more thing to work into an already busy schedule. One more thing to force yourself to do. This year I am creating a vision. Visions create passion and excitement. A vision creates a trajectory and provides momentum that can lead you to achieve far more than a goal will. Goals are stopping points, visions create life long growth. I want to be a known as a person who is constantly growing and chasing a vision.

In 2017 I started laying a foundation for life long growth. In 2018 I want to begin to shape that growth into a long term vision and start taking the steps necessary to get there.

Vision: Become a topnotch, well respected communicator and coach

One of my greatest joys is seeing someone have an “ah-ha!” moment, that lightbulb that goes on when they realize they can be and do more than they thought before. I am passionate about helping people find and reach their potential. In 2017 I became a certified speaker, teacher, and coach through the John Maxwell Team. Already a natural leader, teacher, and encourager, I wanted to take my ability to help people to the next level. My vision is to expand my audience beyond my current job and industry, to impact individuals, hospitals, businesses, and organizations in a truly transformative way. To leave each day behind having added value to everyone I came into contact with.

Vision: Let my money make me money, not me making money

Time is precious and the older I get the more precious it becomes. Time is the only true currency that exists. Once it is gone it is gone. I want to spend more time investing in my family and close friends. More time helping others see their potential. More time transforming others from a poverty mindset to an abundance mindset. In order to do that I need to spend less time making money myself and more time focusing on how my money can make me more money. By studying wealthy people I have found that the best way for money to make more money is by investing in real estate and businesses. I was already on this path, however there was no vision. The vision gives clarity and a focused why statement that provides motivation. This vision will lead me to invest more heavily in businesses and real estate for myself.

Vision: Build an ever improving relationship with my wife that others coming behind can model after

Life is hard to navigate, relationships are harder. Finding someone who has been there already who you can follow is an invaluable resource. Along with my dream to add value to everyone around me, I want to be a relationship model everyone can emulate. No marriage is perfect, and that is the beauty of marriage. Anyone can have a good marriage in good times, but it is when the going gets tough that the quality of the relationship really shines through. I want my struggles and achievements to provide hope, inspiration, and a path to follow for all the other couples out there.

Vision: Live a slow paced life

Our society has a go-go-go mentality. Technology, fast food, kids school activities, work following you home, are all contributors to the idea that our schedule should always be full. Start one thing and then go start the next thing. No time in between to breathe. We have a belief that if we are busy we are productive but really all being busy means is that you are busy. Slowing down and creating space in life allows you to spend time thinking and reflecting. I have heard it said that even one minute of reflective thinking is worth an hour of activity. I want to slow life down so I can relax and enjoy it more as well as making the times I am busy truly more effective and productive. I want to be able to think and reflect more to enhance my relationships and all aspects of life.

2017 Email Stats

Continuing the tradition of posting a yearly (ok I skipped 2016) count of email stats, here are the numbers from this year. These numbers reflect only the emails from my personal email account after being filtered for spam.

Interestingly the sent number this year is identical to the number sent in 2015. I also have a near zero inbox this year!

Sent: 569
Received: 4195
Unread: 40

Visual representation of email since 2009

Books I read in 2017

love reading! When most of my peers were struggling learning to read simple words I was reading full novels, such as the Hardy Boys. By the time I was 10 years old (maybe earlier, my parents might remember) I had amassed a library that covered one entire wall of my bedroom. I noticed that as time has passed there are more demands on my attention and reading books has slowly fallen away. In fact in all of 2016 I did not read a single book! That needed to change. For 2017 I set what I thought at the time was an ambitious goal:

Read a minimum of two books per month; one for education and one for pleasure.

Once I got rolling I blew that goal right out of the water with 45 books!
I want to see if I can nearly double that number to 80 books in 2018.
January
– Piranha by Clive Cussler
– Millionaire Real Estate Investor by Gary Keller
– How’s your soul by Judah Smith
– American Assasin by Vince Flynn
February 
– Vision Blockers by dr Eric Scroggins
– Marine Diesel Mechanics by Nigel Calder
March
– Presidents Shadow by Brad Meltzer. Poorly written
– Emperors’ Revenge by Clive Cussler
– How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie
– The Book on Rental Property Investing by Brandon Turner
– Be a People Person by John C Maxwell
April
– Seven habits of highly effective people by Stephen Covey
– How to build a website by Greg Rickaby
– *Do not recall the title :(*
May
– Sea Trials by Wendy Hinman
– 4 Hour Work Week by Tim Ferris
– The Racing Rules of Sailing for 2017-2020
– Tightwads on the Loose by Wendy Hinman
June
– I would like to inform you that tomorrow we will die with our families
– 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership by John C Maxwell
July
– 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership by John C Maxwell *Yes I read it twice!
– JMT training materials
August
– JMT training materials
– 15 Laws of Growth by John C Maxwell
September
– 15 Laws of Growth
– JMT coach training resources
October
– Start with Why – Simon Sinek
– Good Leaders ask Great Questions – John Maxwell
– JMT Coach Training
– The White Mountains by John Christopher
– The City of Gold and Lead by John Christophero
– The Pool of Fire by John Christopher
November
– Extreme Ownership
– Structuring Zero Down Deals with Joe Crump. *Poorly written. Tries to write from the buyer and seller perspective at the same time. Only about lease to own contracts.
– The Bootstrap VA by Lisa Morosky
– 7 Years to 7 Figure Wealth by Brandon Turner
– Tarzan of the Apes by Edgar Rice Burroughs
– How to create your ultimate mastermind team by  Liz Seda & Scott insmore
– Return of Tarzan
– The beasts of Tarzan
December
– Put your dream to the test – John Maxwell
– Son of Tarzan
– The lean startup
– Acres of Diamonds by Russel Conwell
– The Personal MBA

2017 Year in Review

For several years I have made a resolution to create an intentionally slower life with more space in it. It is a resolution I have never kept. 2017 was no exception. 2017 has been packed so full of experiences that I have coined it as the year I packed 10 years of experiences into 1 year. It was exhausting and exhilarating at the same time, with several bucket list items and astounding personal growth happening.

When I looked back of the year I created a categorized, bulleted list of significant moments and achievements thinking it may be more digestible than writing everything out….the list is several pages long!The following is my attempt to summarize said list into easily digestible chunks.

How did I do on my 2017 goals?

I did not publish any 2017 goals, but I did write down and track them myself. Of the 15 goals I had I accomplished 7 of them, those 7 being the most important and the others being pushed out by life priority changes. Here are the goals I achieved.

Spend more quality time with Alix. Because she is was attending night classes as well as working nights time together was at a premium but we were able to make the most of the time we did have.

Learn better communication methods with Alix. Learning to communicate better with your spouse is a lifelong commitment to improvement. Alix and I have had several amazing breakthroughs in our marriage and communication this year. There is much room for improvement and I believe we have created the start of a solid foundation that will hold us through the future.

Help Alix build a successful business. Alix Lularoe business has come a long way since the beginning of the year. My “help” has mostly been through photographing her modeling outfits, which I am surprisingly good at. I have helped her brainstorm ideas for better customer engagement and setup for big events. Schoolwork has been the limiting factor in business growth. 2018 brings with it many great new growth opportunities.

Read two books per month, one educational and one fun. NAILED IT SO HARD! In January I read 4 books. The most books in one month was 8 in November, with an average of 4 per month. Because I was hitting my goal I picked up a Kindle (used, because I did not know if I would like it. I cannot recommend it enough!) which allowed me to accelerate my reading goal significantly.

Do another trip to Uganda. I joined the September medical trip. It was simply astounding. The clinic was able to serve 2,121 people from the Kampala slums in 4 days. At the orphanage/boarding school we supplied the new girls dorm with hundreds of mattresses, the younger girls with dresses, and the younger kids with two new pairs of shoes.

Become a leadership coach! This was the goal that popped up partway into the year. It excited and transformed my life, and is also the reason the other items on my goal list were deprioritized and bumped off.

Personal Growth

This is THE big one! Personal Growth consumed 2017 for me, with breaks to go sailing.

2016 was a bad year for me, personally and professionally. I tried to write a year in review post but I could not figure out how to do it without spewing massive amounts of negativity across the interwebs. I quite frankly hated my life. I had turned into an incredibly negative and bitter person, completely opposite of who I am.

I could not continue living that way, something had to change. After spending many hours in personal reflection I realized the root of the issue stemmed with who was leading my life. Instead of taking responsibility for my own growth and happiness I had handed it over to my employer. Not good. I had to get out of that rut and started the process by reading through a couple of the classic leadership and communication books. What I learned floored me. I knew to be happy and successful again I needed to take back control of my personal rowth and development. I had on ordered several more books and lectures on leadership and communication and then a conversation with my CEO confirmed to me that I was on the right track.

I will post more about this separately (eventually) but to keep things short, as I started growing I hungered for more and search out where I could get the best training. In my search I bumped into John Maxwell again. John Maxwell has influenced lives of leaders around the globe and is considered to be the world’s #1 expert on leadership and communication. In 2011 John Maxwell created a program to train and certify leadership and communication speakers, teachers, and coaches. I joined. John Maxwell’s Team has created an astounding amount of amazing training material. Several months ago I completed the John Maxwell Team Certification and enrolled in the advanced mentorship.

I have seen spectacular changes in my life, my marriage, and my team at work through implementing lessons in my life. I love love love helping people unlock their potential. I believe it is the calling on my life. Starting as a side project in 2018 I will be providing training and coaching services to companies and individuals. If you or your company are interested in a free training session please get ahold of me on the contact page!

Professional Update

As I mentioned in the personal growth section above, my work at WebDevStudios has really kicked up this year. I have aggressively implemented what I have learned and even started doing some internal training. I would like to see leadership development expanded to encompass the entire company in 2018.

Some quick stats:

  • My team touched 22 projects!!! That is a significant number My team is the best! I am incredibly proud of and honored to serve with them. The next closest team clocked in at 16 projects (I think), with 13 following on their heels.
  • I interview 5.5 people (That I remember, there may have been more! I read through dozens of applications).
  • Hired and trained 4 new team members.
  • Started doing internal leadership development.

Boating Update

Somehow in the midst of everything else I found time for boating activities. November 2016 I acquired part ownership of Billabong, a beautiful Lancer 36. She needed some serious work to be “ship-shape”. The first thing I did was to learn everything I could about diesel motors and pull Billabong’s motor and rebuild it with fellow Shilshole Bay Yacht Club member Harold Baldwin. It was a long, slow, rewarding process that I still have yet to document. 7 months from the time I took ownership the motor was back in the boat and she was ready to leave the slip for (my) first time.

We entered into the Ballard Cup races and I was able to take the existing race crew from a 5-6 place team immediately to a 3rd place team. By the end of the series we were handily in 1st. Not bad for never having piloted a boat in a race before! I credit it entirely to my racing mentor Joe Bozick..

In the freshly rebuild sailboat, Alix and I were able to do a few weekend cruises with the Shilshole Bay Yacht Club. They were a ton of fun and Alix is enjoying sailing much more now too. This summer we used the cruises as a shakedown of the boat and identified several key upgrades for the boat (such as fixing a rudder leak!).

Wrap Up

There is a ton more that I could write about but these cover the major highlights. 2018 will build upon the foundation of things that have happened in 2017 to propel Alix and I further and faster into our future. More to come on that soon!

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